It has been 7 years since a judge granted me sole custody of little HJ. You hear about people going through custody battles all the time. Mine was a bit different than most. It wasn’t a battle at all.
After talking with a lawyer, it was decided that my best course of action would be for HJ’s father to sign off on all custody. That way, if there ever came a time where he decided he wanted to be in HJ’s life, I could have control of how that worked.
Without this agreement, he could have came forward at any time and be given 50% custody.
When I asked him to sign away all custody, he agreed without a fight. He was relieved that is what I wanted. It hurt that he was willing to give HJ up so easily. I didn’t understand since he was (is) my everything.
The lawyer was amazed that he asked how quickly it could be done.
I always thought there would come a time that he would ask to meet his son. Or even ask for a picture. For the first few years of HJ’s life, I would let him know that I was willing to let him be involved.
The last time we talked was over 3 years ago, close to 4. I don’t even remember what it was about. I just know he wants nothing to do with my son. I wonder if he ever thinks about him, wonders about him. Part of me thinks that HJ never even crosses his mind. I wonder if he realized he made a huge mistake, or if he still doesn’t care.