It has been 7 years since a judge granted me sole custody of little HJ.  You hear about people going through custody battles all the time.  Mine was a bit different than most.  It wasn’t a battle at all.

After talking with a lawyer, it was decided that my best course of action would be for HJ’s father to sign off on all custody.  That way, if there ever came a time where he decided he wanted to be in HJ’s life, I could have control of how that worked.

Without this agreement, he could have came forward at any time and be given 50% custody.

When I asked him to sign away all custody, he agreed without a fight.  He was relieved that is what I wanted.  It hurt that he was willing to give HJ up so easily.  I didn’t understand since he was (is) my everything.

The lawyer was amazed that he asked how quickly it could be done.

I always thought there would come a time that he would ask to meet his son.  Or even ask for a picture.  For the first few years of HJ’s life, I would let him know that I was willing to let him be involved.

The last time we talked was over 3 years ago, close to 4.  I don’t even remember what it was about.  I just know he wants nothing to do with my son.  I wonder if he ever thinks about him, wonders about him.  Part of me thinks that HJ never even crosses his mind.  I wonder if he realized he made a huge mistake, or if he still doesn’t care.


I walked into the living room, and grabbed my water glass off the coffee table.  As I take a big drink, HJ starts laughing.  Like, hysterically laughing.

I cautiously look at him while setting my glass down and say, “What in the world are you laughing at?”

“I am laughing because YOU are sharing a water with the DOG!”

“What are you talking about?!?!”

Apparently, when I walked away from my water glass, the dog walked up to the coffee table, and helped himself to my water.  I have no idea if this has happened before, or how many times I could have possibly drank from the same glass as my dog.  All I know is I have seen how much he slobbers in his own water bowl.  Ew.



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I always like to start spring with switching my handbag out.  And the pastel colors are my current favorite.  Check out this Clare V. Mick tote…


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