Do you ever feel that parenting is a bunch of threats that you know you won’t follow through with?
“If you don’t pick up your toys, we aren’t going on our trip”
Bullshit. You already paid for that trip. Hotels are non-refundable.
Last night, I did the, “if you don’t apologize to your friend for hitting him over the head with a snake, he won’t want to some to your birthday party.” *not a real snake…stuffed snake*
HJ’s response was, “Good! I don’t want him to come anymore!”
Crud, not the reaction I wanted. I needed to go bigger. “You won’t be able to have a party AT ALL”.
Even though I already paid for the location, delivered invites, ordered a cake and purchased some favors. Uh-huh.
Luckily, he apologized.
But what do you do if the kid doesn’t comply? Do you follow through with those big threats? Compromise somehow? I feel like HJ is starting to figure out a lot of my threats are just crap. Therefore they have turned more into, “Go to your room” as opposed to “we are no longer going to wherever cool it is that I pre-planned”.
But what do you do if the kid WANTS to go to their room? When I would get in trouble growing up, I would willingly go to my room, I didn’t want to be anywhere near my parents who angered me so. And HJ has proven to be much like me time and time again. Sometimes I am saying “Get to your room!” and notice he is already doing that.
I want something so that my child truly knows what happened, and know I am trying to make him into a good person.
And while asking for advise, at what age do you tell a child, “hurry, get in the car so I am not late for work!” and they actually hurry? I feel like kids have no sense of urgency. HJ must think, “ok mom, after I change my socks, hug the dog, notice the tag on my shirt is too awful to wear, complain about needing a drink and then start crying when my mom urges me on more”.