There is nothing single about being a single mom…

However, the thing with being a single mom is that it is hard to fit in.

I have my friends with kids….who are also married.  When we get together, it is always kid friendly stuff.  And I am always the only non-married one.

I have my single friends…who are kid-less.  They text me that they are going out on a Friday or hitting up happy hour after work.  And I am like, “Cool, can Harrison come?”.

Heck, I even have single mom friends.  But I am the only one I know who is a single mom I know that has sole-custody.  My single mom friends have a day or two a week, or every other weekend where they can go out and even *gasp* date!

The point I am getting at is that it is hard to fill like I fit in anywhere.  I feel like the odd ball out in all social situations.  I feel like it has been hard to find a group I belong to, and it can be pretty lonely.

If it weren’t for work, I could end up not having an adult conversation for days.  I have tried getting involved in different activities, but still feel like an outsider.  It’s hard to fit in when you have such a different lifestyle.

6 Thoughts on “Single Mom Club

  1. I was just saying this. I feel like a loser that people feel sorry for. The kids school functions are the worst.

    • sliceofmudpie@gmail.com on April 27, 2015 at 6:47 am said:

      They are! HJ had a school assignment the other day, the top of the page said: “My Parents Are…”. I just had to laugh a little.

  2. I don’t have any advice or suggestions, as I am in the same position (single mom with sole custody of my five year old son), but I just wanted to let you know I totally get what you’re saying, and you are not alone! Other moms not in this position don’t really understand how it can feel to not truly “fit in” which is one of the reasons I love reading your blog, I relate to so much of what you post! Best of luck :)

    • sliceofmudpie@gmail.com on April 27, 2015 at 6:46 am said:

      Glad I am not alone! It’s not that people try to make me feel like I don’t fit in…it’s just hard to relate to people in a totally different lifestyle!

  3. Completely understandable, I’m the only single girl without a child or significant other, so I feel similar (but different) things. Last week I was at an event and talking to a mom about her child’s day care and she followed up with “what daycare do you use” which lead to an embarrassing…ugh. I don’t have a kid.

  4. I hear ya, Lady! :) I feel the same way. I do have Tim to watch Kaydin randomly but overall, she’s my responsibility. Move to DSM!!! :) :)

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