On Friday, I went on a date.  I haven’t gone on a date since June, so I was probably overdue.  My date ended up being absolutely amazing.

Amazingly bad, that is.  This was by far my worst date in years, and most likely even the worst date of my life.

I don’t even know how to tell you how bad it was, because I am not comfortable sharing the words he used.  I seriously contemplated how to write this post numerous times, but here is a short run-down of the date…

We sit down at a table, and within the first 2 minutes he uses the phrase, “f*cking retard”.  I despise that word.  To me, it says you are not intelligent…in addition to being a prick.  But, he doesn’t know that word is my pet-peeve, so I think to myself, “don’t totally write him off yet”.  Even though I wanted to.

As dinner went on, he offended every single race (other than his own).  He used derogatory words.  He slammed people for being obese.  And, when referring to a gay man, he chose to use the word f*ggot.  He used the “n” word.  I started keeping track in my head of all the people he was offending.  As dinner was wrapping up, I thought that there was one race he hadn’t hit on yet.  Naturally,  he managed to slam them right as the bill was being dropped off.

I was in shock that he was able to state all of these comments in one short dinner.  Not to mention, he didn’t even know me, imagine what he is like to close friends.  He didn’t ask me anything, he managed to talk the entire time, and was so disgusting that I spent most of my time planning my escape.  An hour and a half of listening to this man spew ignorant and racist crap.

He is definitely one of those guys that I was thinking, “Oh my God, I know exactly why you are single.”.  Part of me kept wanting to get up and walk away, while another part wanted to listen to hear what else this ignorant man had to say.  Another part of me thought I had to be on some sort of hidden camera show.

And, he must have thought the date went pretty well, because he text me an hour afterwards, and twice yesterday.  How in the world he thought I was impressed with him is beyond me.


11 Thoughts on “Date Night

  1. brian spector on January 18, 2015 at 9:21 pm said:

    I feel for you. You do not deserve that.
    I am guessing he had a bumper sticker that said incest is best….hope I made you laugh.
    So your ideal man is?

  2. I’m so sorry. I hate people like that. At least you never have to see him again

    • sliceofmudpie@gmail.com on January 20, 2015 at 7:50 pm said:

      I am really hoping I don’t run into him. I think it’s safe to say we have different crowds 🙂

  3. Sherri on January 19, 2015 at 7:35 am said:

    So sorry that is wasn’t a pleasant experience. Just curious how did you meet him? Please don’t tell me a friend fixed you up!

  4. Yikes. And just think….a first date is the time to be on your best behavior! Sorry things went so badly for you.

    • sliceofmudpie@gmail.com on January 20, 2015 at 7:51 pm said:

      That’s what I kept thinking, “this is him putting his best face forward”.

  5. Breenah A on January 19, 2015 at 10:26 am said:

    The only good thing is that at least he was like this to begin with, instead of nice and dropping his disgustingness on you after multiple dates.

  6. What a winner….NOT. I dated someone similar back in July-not quite as vulgar, and there were a few teensy weensy moments of possibility. But, the minute the racists card was shown, I was done-completely done. And, cuss words, ESPECIALLY the F-Bomb-a total turn off to me, as well. Hope you find better luck and much better company on the next one! XOXO-Kasey

  7. WOW …… the kinda thing that’s good to find out on the first date! How terrible for you though, mum’s nights out are special things!

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