As a single mom, I am often told things about how strong I must be. How others don’t know how I do it. I smile and nod when people say things like, “Husbands gone for work, I’m a single mom this week too!”.
And you know what, I understand it all.
I am strong. Mostly out of necessity. I was thrown one of those curve balls that many don’t have to face alone. Have you ever unexpectedly become pregnant? It is scary. For anyone. Hell, it is scary for those who plan it. Not only did I face that challenege head on, I did it when the one person who should have been by my side, ran away. Leaving me to figure all the emotions and logistics on my own.
I always laugh when people say “I don’t know how you do it”. Did they expect me to just give up on life? No, I did what anyone does. I figured shit out. And I did what I hoped would work best for my family. I moved closer to my parents so they could help out. And I am given the bonus of having my son grow up seeing them almost daily. I absolutely love seeing their bond, and feel lucky my son is able to know them so well.
And how I do the rest of it? Sometimes my life is chaotic and crazy, but for the most part, HJ and I have our little household figured out. So yes, I might run around like a mad women once in a while, but I also manage to have a clean house (most of the time), a hot dinner, and still have time to play. Because that is what needs to be done.
And for the comments of, “I’m a single mom this week too!”. I really do understand. You are use to your schedule. You have a routine. A routine that was built with a partner in mind. Having that partner suddenly being gone, would throw a wrench in that plan. I get it.