Excuse me a moment while I get on my soap box…


Maybe it’s an Iowa thing, so going out with a non-Iowan brought it to my attention.  Or maybe (and I hope), it was just that guy.  I hope Chivalry isn’t dead.  Please, please tell me it’s not.

You see, I went out with this guy.  The first date, I noticed he didn’t hold open the door of a restaurant.  But maybe he was cold.

Second date, he picked me up.  He pulled into the driveway and shot me a text that said he was “here”.

Okay, maybe he wasn’t positive on the house.

Enter date 3, 4 and 5.


What the?  Is it so hard to get out of your car, walk to the door and escort a lady to your car?  I don’t think I have ever gone out with a guy who didn’t at least come to the door, and get the car doors for me.  And I have dated some real non-gentleman like men.

Also, I feel like the guy should pay the first few dates.  Or at least offer to.  Especially when it is obvious the man makes A LOT more than the women…why would they have HER pick up the bill 90% of the time (not just her bill….the WHOLE bill)?  ESPECIALLY when they know she is going home to pay a babysitter.

Luckily, this has been my first experience with a guy like this.  But, is this normal?  He happens to not be from Iowa, or even the Midwest, so it led me to believe maybe New Yorkers are just kind of rude like that.  Or maybe Midwest guys are sweeter (which I find hard to believe)?

For the record, if I ever hear about my son not going to the door to pick up a girl (friend, girl friend, whatever it may be), he will hear it from me.  A lady should not be treated that way.  My son will know what chivalry is.


6 Thoughts on “Chivalry and Dating

  1. Nope, it’s not dead, you just got a clueless one! Dump him and move along, girl. There’s plenty of fish in the sea who know how treat a lady, and we need to settle for nothing less! XOXO-SWM

  2. There are good ones and there are bad ones…he was definitely not a keeper. Continue you’re search for a true gentleman!

  3. Ugh. Agreed. Not a keeper. There are definitely still (single) gentlemen out there. Ditch the dud and stumble upon the charmer. 🙂

    PS. I’m sorry you had to deal with that. I once had a fellah sit in the driveway and honk for me. So terribly unattractive. Did not last.

    • sliceofmudpie@gmail.com on December 7, 2013 at 7:07 pm said:

      I really don’t understand why anyone wouldn’t come to the door on a date?!?!

  4. Sounds like a dud there! Even my ex who was a complete idiot opened doors for me….the money thing is always a bit tricky, so I always make sure they know before we order the food that I’m happy to split the bill….that way he’ll either have to make it known he thought you were paying (in which case you let him know you can afford to cover your own meal but not his and maybe say if you can’t afford to eat here we can go somewhere more affordable), or he’ll tell you he’s paying and you can relax. If he can’t afford to pay for his own meal then he shouldn’t have asked you out in the first place.

    I so don’t understand guys like that, my dad always taught me that a real man would be mortified to let a lady pay his way.

    • sliceofmudpie@gmail.com on December 10, 2013 at 8:13 pm said:

      He was a specialized doctor…so I think he was good on the money, it’s me that struggles!!!

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