You know what I find not fun? Dating. I don’t understand how people just go out and meet someone. “Oh, we just ran into each other at the gym.” I look disgusting at the gym. No one wants to date me if they saw me there. Unless they are attracted to drowned rats.
Or, “the grocery store is a great place to pick up guys!”. Right, because nothing spells love at first sight like seeing someone with a three year old in a cart who is probably yelling about getting a cookie, with a frazzled looking mom is trying to find the grocery list she left on the counter while getting to the bakery at lightening speed for the free cookie. Once the free cookie is picked up she has approximately 8 minutes to get all her shopping done before the cookie is gone. Ain’t nobody got time to be picking up men.
Yeah, basically, that means I am single.
So, when Match.com gave me the opportunity to interview their relationship expert, Whitney Casey, I jumped at the chance. I can use all the advice I can get! Plus, I have learned that as a full-time single parent, online dating is really the only way to meet eligible men. I came up with some questions I have been curious about when it comes to online dating, and she gave some great tips:
Being a single parent, it is hard to meet potential dates, is online dating a good way to meet guys that actually want relationships?
Yes! Match.com is the world’s largest dating company, bringing together over 1.9 MM paid subscribers on the site. With those sheer numbers, it’s no wonder that Match is responsible for more dates, more relationships, and more relationships than any other site. Our site offers a diverse group of people from all over the country that are serious about finding a relationship, and single parents who online date have more success with finding relationships than those who don’t.
About 1/3 of our members between the ages of 23-50 are single parents, and we’ve seen a 180% increase in single parents joining Match.com over the last four years. In addition to the number of single parents we have using the site, over 2/3 of men are interested in dating a single mom (67%). There’s a great pool of people and potential dates who can relate to your situation hoping to connect online.
What is the best way to disclose you are a single parent? And how much should your child be mentioned in your profile?
That’s the great thing about Match, it’s a straightforward process when creating your profile and entering details about you, your life, and who you are looking for: Along with your basic details like age, where you’re searching, and your ethnicity, there are two fields related to children: “Have Kids” and “Want Kids.” This makes it easy for potential matches who come across your profile to get a good grasp of your life circumstances and situations like children BEFORE making contact. And don’t think being a single parent is a turn off – over 2/3 of men are interested in dating a single mom (67%)!
Kids in pictures, yay or nay? Why?
At the end of the day, this is about you trying to connect with someone – not your kids. As difficult as it might be for you, keep the majority of your profile photos of just you – including headshots and a full body photo – and also incorporate photos of activities, interests and travel that show off who you are. And if one or two of those photos involve you and your kids, that’s great!
I always get uncomfortable talking about myself, what are some tips for selling yourself in your profile without coming across arrogant? What are the best things to talk about in your profile to make yourself stand out?
Creating a profile from scratch can be daunting – especially if you’re used to talking about your kids versus – heaven forbid – yourself! Follow the 3 R’s to a great online dating profile: Real, Relevant, and Recent.
REAL: Your profile picture is crucial – make sure you keep it real. No photo-shopping. No cropping. And most importantly, it should look like you would on your first date with someone! No sunglasses, action shots, group photos or animals. This is your first chance to make a good impression!
RELEVANT: Your profile should be well thought out and reflective of you…but not a novel. Keep the “about me” section clean and bulleted or numbered. Think simple, write simple. When looking at that section think: What are your best attributes, what do you like to do, and what you like in a man.
RECENT: You are more likely to be included in more searches by single men if you consistently update your profile. Add new pics if you have recently been on a trip, change your dating headline like you would change your Facebook status, if you like a new book or movie…talk about it. This gives men something to email you about. Remember men are action oriented…give them something to take action on!
I was curious to know about the members on the site, and learned that Match.com has seen a 180% increase we’ve seen an in single parents who have their kids living with them on Match over the last four years. That made me want to know how many people that actually is, and it is actually 1/3 of the members on Match.
That makes me a lot more confident in putting myself out there with online dating. Knowing that there are that many single parents on Match, makes me feel better. I thought I would be one of the only single parents on there! Plus, 67% of Match’s men said they would be willing to date a single mom. I have always wondered if I chould include pictures with my son or not, or if I should talk about him in the profile. After reading Whitney’s advice, I feel much more comfortable about what I should say in my profile to attract some potential guys.
So, single mamas, give it a shot, check out Match.com for yourself!