I apologize for not posting my regular times last week.  Things were a bit hectic.  I had to keep myself busy so I would forget that I am sad and mending a broken heart.  So we went to the store to shop when there was nothing we needed.  And ended up trying on sunglasses for 40 minutes while HJ would make me laugh by saying things like, “Do I look cool, mommy?”.

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I did things like painting a canvas that I deserted last winter when it didn’t turn out the way I pictured.  And HJ and I found a giant “H” at Hobby Lobby and painted it blue.

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I also upgraded A Slice of Mudpie to a new host…and I am completely lost.  And completely worried I have lost all of my followers in the process.  I worked hard to get all the 113 people who had followed via reader or email.  You see, I started this blog without telling my friends about it (just a small handful) hoping I would gain followers who read my blog because of the content and not because they knew me and felt like they had too.  I have readers who have reached out to me and become my friends.  So it scares me to think all the work I put into the past 2 years has disappeared because I made a rash switch to keep my mind busy.  I should have told everyone before I left!

But on the plus side, I have been working with an awesome designer who is making it all pretty.

And on top of all that, we left town.  HJ and I left early Friday morning for Kansas City where we spent some much-needed time with some very loved friends.  I got to hang out with one of my most wonderful friends, and HJ got to hang out with her son who is just a few weeks older than him.

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And then we continued our trip South to Emporia for a memorial service for a family member.  It was fun to see relatives I haven’t seen in years.  And right now, HJ and I are snuggled up in a hotel bed while he asks me what I am typing about.  I have been completely impressed with how he has behaved these past 3 days while meeting new people, and sleeping in new places.  Hopefully 8 hours in the car tomorrow will not be as bad as I am thinking.

I hope you are all with me, and soon I will have a new “follow me” button!

If I had been honest with you, I would have told you months ago that my bf was a bad drunk.  But I didn’t.  I didn’t because yes, he was mean when he was drunk…but it was only when he was drunk.  I kept thinking, “well, if I was mean when I was drunk, that would only be a handful of times a year.  At most.”

But for him it wasn’t.It was a few times a week.

If I had been honest, I  would have told you about the night we were dancing at a bar.  He suddenly looked at me and yelled, “Maybe I don’t want to date a mom.”

If I had been honest, I  would have told you about the night we had plans with my friends.  My friends don’t go out much, so I was excited for him to get to know them better.  I knew he had gone out the night before, so I tried calling him that afternoon and got no answer.  When I brought HJ to my parents I stopped by his place and woke him up.  I told him I would be right back and to get ready.  When I came back, he was passed out.  He had been drinking until 11 that morning.  I went alone to meet my friends.  I told my friends I was done.  That his drinking ruined our relationship.

He ended up meeting us out that night.  He finally woke up.  He knew I was pissed, and rightfully so.  But when he met us out, apparently one of the guys that had been sitting with us gave him a dirty look when he walked in.  He accused me of flirting with him.

There was another night where he accused me of breaking up a marriage.  I have never even met the people he was referring to.

If I had been honest, I would have told you about how he had accused me of being materialistic, which anyone who knows him and myself would laugh thinking I was the one being accused of this.

The moment where I finally had it was 2 weeks ago.  We had been having dinner at a nice restaurant.  He told me I was vain (which, the way he described it proved he didn’t know what the word meant).  He went on and on yelling things about me, my friends, even his friends.  I broke down into tears.  Hurt that he would even think those things about me.

The next day, I told my friend I needed to break up with him.  But I didn’t.  I was hoping he would realize what alcohol did to him.

Two weeks later, it was still weighing on me.  I talked to my friend about it.  She told me how I deserve better, how there is someone who will treat me right.  She told me he was being verbally abusive and not to put up with it.  She said it doesn’t matter if it only happens when he is drunk, but the fact is it keeps getting worse.  And if it is this bad at 6 months, imagine what it would be like a year from now?  What if HJ ever heard him act like that?  What she said really hit home.  She was right.

And HJ.  Poor little guy thought the bf was great fun.  But the bf hardly wanted anything to do with him.  I always felt he saw him as an inconvenience.  This broke my heart.

Last week, I knew we had to talk.  I also knew that bringing this up would mean we could easily be over, so I kept putting it off.  Then he came over one night and said it wasn’t working for him.  He didn’t want a family.  He couldn’t be with someone who was so tied down.  I told him what my thoughts had been the past few weeks.He felt bad about how he had treated me, and we ultimately broke up.

I would be lying if I said it was easy.  Yes, it needed to be done.  And yes, I am better off without him.  But that doesn’t make the heartbreak any less.  He is the person I talked to throughout the day, and now my phone hardly rings.  It’s lonely.  And like I said, when he wasn’t drunk, it was great.  That’s the person I miss.

 

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HJ and I have lived in 3 places (yup, and he is only 3).  I first brought him home to our cute, 2 bedroom apartment in West Des Moines.  Monthly rent: $805, without utilities.

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Then we moved towns.  To a college town.  College towns have expensive rentals, and the rentals are usually run-down.  We moved to this 2 bedroom duplex:

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Rent was $850 a month.  Because it was old, utilities cost about $250/month.  And it was filthy.  We spent days cleaning when we first moved in.  I knew I was losing money by renting, so with-in 6 months, I started house hunting.

Those of you who have been following me a while know that about a year and a half ago, I moved into a new house (that I own…yup, I am a big kid). You may also remember when I started House Hunting.

Buying a home can be a stressful process.  The houses in my price range were all older, and I feared the upkeep would be expensive.   Plus, the closets were small.  I don’t deal well with small closet space.

That is when I decided to look into building.  Within 5 months, we were moving into our very own, and very beautiful home sweet home.

I loved it.  I loved that I got to customize the floor plan, like adding a pantry in the kitchen and a walk-in closet in the master bedroom.  I loved that I didn’t have to worry about updating a room.  I loved that my utility bills have been cut in half!

I was able to get a modern floor plan that is open, perfect for entertaining.  I was able to put my own spin on things like flooring and cabinets.  And best of all?  My mortgage was less than my rent.  By almost $200 a month!

After all I learned, I strongly encourage people to check their markets.  It might be more cost-effective to buy a house rather than to rent.

I currently have some friends house hunting, and I have suggested talking to builders and see what a new construction home would cost.  You can find information on new houses at BHI’s Start Fresh Buy New.  You might be surprised at the cost, and then you can get a beautiful new house…with large closets.

I was selected for this opportunity as a member of Clever Girls Collective, and the content and opinions expressed here are all my own.

Happy Monday everyone!

As you know, I love finding goods on Etsy.  Today, Ashley, from The Gnarly Whale is going to tell you all about their awesome store and products!

About Us
If you’re not familiar with us or The Gnarly Whale already, here’s the scoop.
The Gnarly Whale is an all vegan, minimal-ingredient bath and body shop. We currently have hair detangler, beach waves, body and face scrub, body spray, shampoo, and lip balm. We have plans to include a child product line, a pet product line, soap, skin care, and various other hair and body products in the future.
We launched in October 2012 and have already seen so much success! Some of our major accomplishments so far: We’ll be working with an international retailer in the upcoming months and will be featured in two celebrity gifting suites this year (the Cannes Film Festival and the Primetime Emmys.)
Our dream is to someday relocate ourselves and our business to Florida to open up a shop oceanside. We also hope to financially support our entire family from The Gnarly Whale and both run this business from home together. However, both dreams have been pushed out a few months (or years) due to the cost of doing business as a cosmetic type company and the cost of relocating.
We’re a husband and wife team that does all of the work together (with a little help from friends and family sometimes) so we’re truly a small business. We work days, night, weekends and holidays to do our best to make our dreams become a reality.
This is where your help comes in!
What We’re Looking For
We have plans to do a crowd-funding campaign at some point, but we’re working on creating the perfect campaign that helps us get what we need AND gives back to those that support us. So in the mean time, we’re trying to spread the word about our company and would love the opportunity to expand our business even more to meet our the growing needs of our customers and our business.
The Gnarly Whale is currently in the running to win a Small Business Contest.  It would mean so much if you could go and vote!
Here are some links to help you find them:
The Gnarly Whale also has a few current promotions:
TAX DAY PROMO: From April 5th through April 15th, ALL 16oz bottles are 20% off! No coupon code necessary!DISCOUNT: From April 5th through April 15th, you can also save 15% off of your entire order with coupon code SURFSUP.

Treat yourself to some of their goodies.
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Hey guys, it’s me, HJ.  About time mom let me post, huh?  As you can see from the picture, I look pretty bored.  That’s because mom handed me an outfit to put on for daycare.  It wasn’t quite my style, so I jazzed it up a bit.

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Bam!  Wolf hat.  This always makes me smile.

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I wore it the entire day yesterday.  It makes my hair have incredible volume when I take it off.  Also, you might think I am wearing a boring, plain, old t-shirt and sweatpants, but look at this…

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I start turning around and,

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awesome.  I don’t know why my mom keeps telling me my clothes are on backwards.  I think they look cool like this.

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So does Tyson.

Mom says this post is going to be part of Sunny with a Chance of Sprinkles Trendy Little link up.  Clearly, I am one trendy little guy.

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BYE!

Recently, the bf and I tried a dinner at home that was delicious.  Unlike the last time I posted about making him dinner, the smoke alarms did not go off nor did I burn myself.  Woohoo!

I was digging through my cooking light cookbook and came across a Seafood Fettuccine Recipe that sounded simply and yummy.

I was able to find a link to it online, check it out here.

Seafood Fettuccine Recipe

Ingredients:

  • 1 1/2 tablespoons butter
  • 1 cup chopped green onions
  • 4 garlic cloves, minced
  • 1 pound medium shrimp, peeled
  • 1 pound sea scallops
  • 2 cups half-and-half
  • 1/2 teaspoon salt
  • 1/4 teaspoon black pepper
  • 1/2 pound lump crabmeat, shell pieces removed (this was hard to find…in my store, it was in a can by the canned tuna!)
  • 3/4 cup (3 ounces) grated fresh Parmesan cheese, divided
  • 8 cups hot cooked fettuccine (about 1 pound uncooked pasta)
  • 1/4 cup chopped fresh parsley

 

Directions:

Melt butter in a 12-inch nonstick skillet over medium-high heat. Add onions and garlic; sauté 1 minute or until tender. Add shrimp and scallops; sauté 3 minutes or until done. Reduce heat to medium-low.

Add half-and-half, salt, pepper, and crabmeat; cook 3 minutes or until thoroughly heated, stirring constantly (do not boil). Gradually sprinkle 1/2 cup cheese over seafood mixture, stirring constantly; cook 1 minute, stirring constantly. Remove from heat.

*We had the sauce going for quite a bit longer to thicken it up a bit!

Combine pasta and seafood mixture in a large bowl. Top each serving with 1 1/2 teaspoons cheese and 1 1/2 teaspoons parsley.

Ta-da!  Dinner!

This past weekend was full of fun times for Easter.  My sister and her family came to town Friday night and the whole family went bowling.  My bf beat everyone…and I lost to everyone.  Including HJ.  But he had bumpers.  Otherwise I would have beat the kids.  Maybe.

The next morning started with a pancake breakfast at a local school, followed by coloring Easter eggs.

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HJ is very into blue, so he made sure to color all but 2 of his eggs blue (the other 2 were orange).

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I think the kids thought it was a contest of who could color all their eggs the fastest and we were finished in about 10 minutes.

That night, we went out for pizza and to the UNI basketball game.

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On our way in, a lady ran into HJ and gave him a cut on his eye.  HJ was pretty upset and I was worried it would damper his spirits.  Luckily, he got over it faster then I did.  He also insisted on going potty 5 times, which meant the peoepl at the end of the row had to move quite a bit, I am sure they loved it  (and he never actually went).  We all had fun cheering on the panthers!

The next morning, it was time to see what the bunny brought everyone.

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HJ’s basket had the Sneaky, Snacky Squirrel Game, which he loves and actually “gets” (great choice for a 3-year-old!).  He also got the movie Despicable Me, which we have now watched 1,298 times.  His favorite part is the menu before the movie you hit “start” when a minon says “oh poop!”.  He also had a super hero cape I found on etsy.  He loves to fly around and pretend to be “Super HJ”.  HJ also scored a Imaginext dinosaur from Nana.

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We tried taking pictures, but HJ was more excited to show off his cape.  I did get one cute one of HJ and myself, but it was photobombed by papa :).

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How was everyone’s Easter weekend?  Share your favorite Easter tradition!