“If you don’t like something change it; if you can’t change it, change the way you think about it.”
–Mary Engelbreit

Notice anything different about the blog?  Look up at the address bar.  Or the Title.  That’s right.  Things are changing around here.

There are numerous reasons why I went for the change.  It has been a long time coming, it just took me a while to figure out how to change EVERYTHING (not the best with computer stuff).  The thing is, yes I am a single mom.  That is where the original Single Mama Life title came from.  No, I didn’t go and elope, I am still a single mom.  But that’s not all I am.

When I started the blog, I think I still held a large amount of bitterness and resentment for Harrison’s father.  Little by little, that has been going away.  I wouldn’t say I have forgiven him completely.  But I don’t cry over it anymore.  I don’t get angry or stressed after talking with him (which might happen every 4 or 5 months…I can’t even remember the last time).  And now that I have come to the realization that I may never get child support, the doesn’t infuriate me.

Over time, I have been able to let go.  Even though I have said in the past we are better with out him, now I know for sure.  I know it would be hard to hand off a child every other weekend or holiday.  I am also aware that the parenting Harrison would get by going to his father’s would be challenging for Harrison and myself.

I know I have said these things over and over, but since last spring, I have been able to truly let go.  Healing brings about change.  You may have noticed a change in my posts in the last year.  I occasionally have the “UGH what a deadbeat” rants, but not nearly as many.  I have realized that the path my son and I are on is amazing.  Wonderful.  Happy.

Harrison and I have a special bond.  One that not many get to experience.  We are lucky.

I am no longer “just” a single mom.  I am a mother.  I no longer wanted to be pigeon-holed.  I know some people wouldn’t look at the blog because they thought it was primarily about “single-parenting” as opposed to just parenting.

I will still write about my struggles and successes.  In fact not much will change but the title.  And the look (yup, I am really excited about that one!).

10 Thoughts on “Changes

  1. Love the new title! You are awesome!!!!

  2. the new name is grrrreat :)

  3. Love the new name!! I look forward to your post in my inbox all the time and can’t wait to read them!! Being a fellow single mama, I can relate to ALOT of what you have to say!!! Thanks for keeping it honest all the time…and more importantly real!!!!

  4. So glad to hear you are happy! And getting over the resentment. I feel I’ll always have some resentment towards me daughter’s bio dad but she is MUCH better off! I have all those same thoughts you do. And I don’t need nor want his money! No need to force him to be a dad. The only annoying/frustrating thing I still get are the random texts saying he is a great dad and he pays child support (sorry but the govt garnishing your tax refund once a year DOES NOT count!!) and I’m hurting her and I’m selfish, blah, blah, blah. I wish we would give up and leave us alone but he’s in California at least and not in the same city! I’m actually really grateful he moved away. Now fingers crossed he stays there! :)

    Love the new title!

  5. I love the new title and and am so glad you’re in a happy place where you’re free of resentment. I hope to someday get to that place too. I love reading your blog so much! :)

  6. Incredible story there. What happened after?

    Good luck!

  7. Once you can let go of the resentment and just learn to enjoy what you have, life as a single mamma is awesome. I actually look at my friends who are married and see so many ways that I am actually lucky to have my girl all to myself.

    My daughters biological father is actually quite wealthy (they drive a Porsche, they own a yacht…blah blah), at first it bothered me that he had all this wealth and owned his own home and we were living in a rental and just getting by each week with a few dollars left in the bank. The stress of no financial help means you have to be more creative with your budget. These days I’m proud of the fact that I manage it all on my own without any help from him. Makes things less messy for us as well, because he’s not invested anything financially, I don’t “owe” him the chance to come in and out of our lives whenever he wishes.

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