“If you don’t like something change it; if you can’t change it, change the way you think about it.”
Notice anything different about the blog? Look up at the address bar. Or the Title. That’s right. Things are changing around here.
There are numerous reasons why I went for the change. It has been a long time coming, it just took me a while to figure out how to change EVERYTHING (not the best with computer stuff). The thing is, yes I am a single mom. That is where the original Single Mama Life title came from. No, I didn’t go and elope, I am still a single mom. But that’s not all I am.
When I started the blog, I think I still held a large amount of bitterness and resentment for Harrison’s father. Little by little, that has been going away. I wouldn’t say I have forgiven him completely. But I don’t cry over it anymore. I don’t get angry or stressed after talking with him (which might happen every 4 or 5 months…I can’t even remember the last time). And now that I have come to the realization that I may never get child support, the doesn’t infuriate me.
Over time, I have been able to let go. Even though I have said in the past we are better with out him, now I know for sure. I know it would be hard to hand off a child every other weekend or holiday. I am also aware that the parenting Harrison would get by going to his father’s would be challenging for Harrison and myself.
I know I have said these things over and over, but since last spring, I have been able to truly let go. Healing brings about change. You may have noticed a change in my posts in the last year. I occasionally have the “UGH what a deadbeat” rants, but not nearly as many. I have realized that the path my son and I are on is amazing. Wonderful. Happy.
Harrison and I have a special bond. One that not many get to experience. We are lucky.
I am no longer “just” a single mom. I am a mother. I no longer wanted to be pigeon-holed. I know some people wouldn’t look at the blog because they thought it was primarily about “single-parenting” as opposed to just parenting.
I will still write about my struggles and successes. In fact not much will change but the title. And the look (yup, I am really excited about that one!).