On Saturday mornings, HJ and I head to his swim lessons. I have tried making small talk with the other parents, but everyone is short with their answers. They are all too busy.
No, they aren’t to busy watching their children. They are all on their phones. This past Saturday, I paid close attention, of the 12 parents I could see, all but one of them was on their phone. The one who wasn’t on her phone was reading a book.
I am not posting this to tell you what a good parent I am. I was on my phone too. Until I noticed what everyone was doing. It made me put my phone away. At that moment, I looked at my son who was looking right at me. He was wanting me to watch him. To pay attention. I told him he was doing great and clapped for him. He beamed. I noticed the other children glancing over for approval. I paid attention the rest of the class. I told them they were doing great and cheered them on. Everyone else? They were on their phones.
Since then, I am being more conscientious of my phone usage. I am making a point to leave it on the counter until HJ goes to bed. I will glance at it every once in a while to respond to a text or make sure no one has called. For the most part though, my eyes are on my son.
I know there aren’t too many years left where he will want me to chase him around the house or join him in the play room. I won’t hear, “mommy, watch this” all that much longer. So for now, I am embracing it.
I am loving watching how excited HJ gets over things. Listening to how wild his imagination has become and how much he has turned into a “real kid”.
I feel bad for the parents who are missing out on these moments. All because they are checking on statuses of their facebook friends or browsing the internet. For now, I will play. I am focusing on HJ. I don’t want to be that mom that misses a huge moment for their child because I was “too busy”. I will see when HJ becomes brave enough to go under water by himself. I am watching him grow.
I hope this will also teach him that it is more important to pay attention to those around you then to be on your phone. I don’t want him to grow up associating me with my phone. I want him to remembering me being there for him. Watching him and cheering him on.
Do you have rules on phone usage while at home? If not, are you willing to implement some so you can have “play time”?