Ugh. The never-ending, on-going cycle of child support frustrations.Here is what recently happened…
HJ’s dad told me he submitted a new modification order. Since he is not working, receiving no benefits/assistance, and has had 2 other kids since our original order was put in place 2 years ago, he will probably get his child support lowered to about $10/month.
Are you frikken kidding me?
When he told me this, I remained calm. What I wanted to say was, “you just bought your girlfriend a frikken diamond engagement ring. You are going on a vacation in a week. Your Christmas tree was piled high with presents.”
What I really said was, “have you found a job yet?”
He said no, and that he isn’t looking. His fiance and him have decided he will stay home with the kids while she works.
But the thing is, he still has another child to think about. That is fine and dandy that they can afford to have him stay at home, but they should also be able to provide the support for his other child. AmIRight??
Naturally, I was frustrated. I called the child support office right away. And like always, the lovely lady who is my contact, explained to me this…
She said as now, there is no modification order in her hands, so he still owes me the previous set amount. Also, in May, he had said he would start paying a minimum of $200/month, which has never been received. Meaning, his license has been sanctioned in the state of Iowa.
Great, he doesn’t live in Iowa.
The state of Nevada has 30 days left to acknowledge that they received our order. Once that happens, his license should also be sanctioned there.
If a modification order does get submitted by him, it is likely the amount would be changed to the $10. On one hand, that is $10/month then I am getting now. On the other hand, WTF. $10 does not help raise a child. That doesn’t even cover 1/3 of a day of daycare!However, it takes a minimum of 180 days to put a modification order in place if both parties agree to it. If I don’t agree and want to dispute it, it will take much, much longer (gotta love how damn slow the system is), meaning he will still owe me the larger amount until the judge makes it official.
But a judge will also look at the fact that he has 2 other kids to support. And no income. So either way, the amount is going to go way, way down.
The state of Iowa does not seek work orders, meaning that even if he owes support, they won’t ask him to get a job. He can stay at home raising his daughters, while his fiance makes more than enough money to support them all. While I am struggling to make ends meet for his son.