HJ’s dad and I rarely communicate. I know the type of person he is and chose to keep our conversations minimal if we have to talk. There isn’t much that he can do that surprises or shocks me enough to warrant a phone call or send a text message. I just don’t care anymore.
So this past weekend, when I found out some news about him, it wasn’t the “news” that bothered me. He is having another baby. His gf and him have 1 daughter, that is 5 months younger than HJ, and now will have another daughter sometime this month. I actually was relived it is a girl. He deserves a house full of girls. Hopefully, trampy girls (yup, I went there). I actually laughed at this a little. Yes, a house full of girls. I hope he never knows the amazing-ness of a son. He missed that chance. He gave it up willingly.
My thoughts went to, “wow, I feel bad for his gf. She has put up with a lot. Dating him on and off for years, now living with him for 3 straight years, with 2 kids and no ring? what is she thinking?”
And I thought about it some more…you know what she is thinking? If they get married, she stops getting alimony from her ex-husband. And then I realized she is just as class-less as him.
Then I got to thinking about WAYYY back in May when Nate told me he was going to file for a child support modification. I kept thinking he was being lazy and just not filling it out. But you know what he is actually thinking? He is probably thinking that you can only request a modification every 2 years. So he is waiting for kid #3 to be born so he can pay me even less money. With him currently being on unemployment and having numerous kids, he could owe me less then $10/month.
Told you they were class acts.
Does it bother me that he is father to other children and actually accepts them? Sure, how could it not.
But none of these things really “got” to me…I am use to those faults. There was nothing that was keeping me from falling asleep. Like I said, nothing surprises me.
I was shopping online at Babies R Us for a friend’s shower gift. In stalker like fashion, I thought, “huh, I wonder if they have a registry?”. Thinking there wouldn’t be…because who the hell has registries for 2nd babies? Correction, 3rd!
But they do.
I skimmed through it, not caring until I saw this. They had registered for and received many numerous expensive gifts. These people, who have not been able to afford a dime in child support since April can afford to get a $500 crib? And a dresser? When they should already have things like a crib from having a previous baby? He can buy things like this but can’t afford $100 in back owed child support? WHAT. THE. FUCK.
How is this okay? How can people get away with this? AND WHY THE FUCK IS IT BOTHERING ME SO MUCH THAT THEY GOT A NEW CRIB?
There had to be something to make me break down.
But how messed up is our system that someone who the child support office can not track down is so easily found via Babies R US? I mean come on, they even list their address on there in case you want to send them a frikken gift!