I officially got a phone call that our child support case has been referred to interstate. What does this mean exactly? From what I can tell, it is a very long, drawn out process that does not guarantee anything.
Our new case worker called to tell me the news. She said with-in a few weeks I would receive an affidavit in the mail. If I sign this, it means that DB (HJ’s
father sperm donor) will not have access to our address. He will know that we still live in Iowa, but that is it. Once she receives the signed form, it will have to go before a Nevada judge and be approved. This can take around 3 months to complete. And, this part is not mandatory, but I WILL do it. While I do not think DB would ever do anything, I would rather not have him know where we live. What if his family/gf were to find out he has a son? It might make him snap.
After that, I will have to fill out paperwork on my employment status, income, etc. CS office will work with Nevada CS office to insure paperwork is getting complete. Nevada has 60 days to file the paperwork.
About 6-8 months from the start of this process, DB will finally receive paperwork letting him know what is going on. He then has 60 days to fill out the paperwork and get the support amount changed.
Then if he begins paying, nothing happens. If he doesn’t the state of Nevada could find him in contempt of court.
Here are my thoughts:
-The process takes about a year. I am guaranteed to not get any money until then. Really? Something seems wrong with that.
-Once the new amount is set, he only has to pay that amount. All the back owed support is still due at some point in time. Shouldn’t the Child Support Office enforce a payment plan on back owed support? Making sure it is paid in a timely matter?
-He isn’t working. He doesn’t need to. His gf supports him. If he doesn’t have a job, he doesn’t have to pay.
I wish all my bills magically disappeared if I stopped working.
-He mentioned he had sold his company back in Iowa. Shouldn’t some of that money go to pay of his debt? Why wasn’t that an option?
-WHY DOES THIS TAKE SO LONG?
-Why do I know things, like he owns rental property, yet the state can’t figure that out?
Basically, the whole process just gets more and more frustrating. He is oblivious to what is going on. He has no responsibilities in this matter.
Does anyone have experience with interstate cases? I could you some advice on how to handle everything!