My friends make comments to their children such as, “just wait until dad gets home” or “I get to be the good cop today”. They will comment on how their child has a current favorite parent, which can change day-to-day. Single parents don’t have the good cop/bad cop game to play. There is just one cop. I am sure there are some single parents who still have shared custody that can play the cop game, but for me, it’s just me ..the sole disciplinarian…and this is my blog.
Now that HJ is getting well into his terrible twos and beginning to be disciplined, I see how necessary the good cop/bad cop roles are. There are times where I don’t feel like disciplining him. Times where I just want to laugh. In most houses this is probably where I could threaten them with the other parent. For me, I just need to get the disciplining over with. It is times like this where I want to be the “cool parent” and not the discipline-er.
I dislike putting HJ in time outs. I hate seeing him cry. And my heart broke a little when he told me I was a meanie. To be honest, it made me a little envious of my friends who can pass off the disciplining and don’t always have to be the bad cop.
I also get terrified that this means I am going to turn in to a pushover. I find it hard to say no to HJ. I try my best to hold my ground, but every now and again I cave. Do any parents have advice on how to hold firm? To not cave to a sweet little smile? Any experiences with good cop/bad cop?