Last week, I posted about some dates. I am sure you are all just dying to hear about them…or not…but either way I will go into more detail.
Bachelor numero uno. #1 and I has talked via text for about a week before we decided to meet for drinks. We also became “friends” on Facebook, so naturally I am sure we both Facebook stalked each other. He was cute, but according to Facebook, I was concerned he might be into different things than me. Meaning, most of his pictures were of drinking games and most of his friends were young little blonde things. I decided to ignore those signs. Afterall, he is a 30-year-old single guy and I have no problem with someone partying…and I hadn’t been on a date since April.
We met for drinks in downtown Waterloo. I have been to that area once and enjoyed it, I just typically go out in Cedar Falls since that is where I live. When I arrived (on time), he was ordering his second drink. We stayed there for a few drinks and then went to a German bar down the street. Suddenly his friends arrived and asked us (or forced…) to do the boot. Das boot. Das boot is never a good choice if one hopes to remain sober. It is a large boot filled with beer that gets passed from person to person (also, not very sanitary). I don’t like beer, so I did what any girl would do on a first date with a guy and six of his friends. I faked it. My date, not so much.
Suddenly I look over at #1 and realize he is taking my picture. So I do what any girl on a first date would do. I duck. Then he asked to get a picture with me to remember our first date.
It was close to 1am at this point, which is way past this girl’s bedtime. I tried tracking him down to let him know I was leaving. That’s when I discovered he was a smoker. Ew.
He walked me to my car and then said, “I have already had a OWI, can I get a ride home?”
Hmm. Alright. So I drive #1 home, kiss him goodbye, and drive myself home. I know, I know, what was with the kiss? Well, throughout the date I pretended to ignore the signs and hoped his charming personality would win me over.
The next day I told some friends it was a fun date, he was really nice, but definitely a little immature for me. We hung out one other time last week, and I once again had the same conclusion. After that I received a text (I will quote this with his spelling):
#1:Proly not the best time to bring it up…but I was thinkin about us…n I dnt think im what ur lookin for in a realationship…
SingleMama: I kind of figured I wasn’t your type. I just figured I would give it a shot.
#1: Dnt get me wrong! ur very Attractive, smart and the convo was good! The Important stuff I look for! It sounds like ur looking for a family man…I dnt think Im ready for that jus yet
SingleMama:Ha, yeah, having a kid kind of makes that a given.
#1: Hope we can still be friends ?
Yes, I applaud him for not just leaving me hanging, and clearly we were both thinking the same thing. I think what bothered me is that I am not looking to make someone a “family man”. I don’t care if I am dating someone who goes out to the bars. I just prefer staying in over that, and would be better suited for someone who is not still in party mode. I don’t want to make someone feel like I am pushing them into a fatherhood role…especailly after one date.